Overcoming Burnout, Judgement and Struggle | Flow with Arman Assadi (Ep. 49)

Do you ever have trouble overcoming burnout, judgement and struggle?

If so, this episode may really speak to you! In it, I share my own metamorphosis journey with you so that you will feel supported in yours. 

This episode was actually a segment from a longer interview I did on Flow with Arman Assadi. The questions I was asked and my responses are written below. 🙂

What have you personally done when you’ve gone through periods in your life when you didn’t wake up excited? How have you handled overcoming burnout when it feels impossible to make a change?

I remember waking up in the mornings and just DREADING getting out of bed to walk over to my computer.

My client at the time was a six-figure contract for me. Even though it was huge, I knew that it wasn’t in alignment. The money excited me, but the job itself didn’t.

So I did what I always do in times like these… I called my dad. He told me: “You know what you need to do.” And I did.

I wrote an honest letter to my client, which took so much courage to write. I was so scared to send it and had my hand hovering over the button for what felt like forever

But you know what happened once I sent it? His response was amazing! I put my heart into that letter, acknowledged him, and told him how much I appreciated the opportunity. He was completely understanding and even told me that if I changed my mind, he would love to work with me again.

When things feel impossible, and you feel stuck, you have to remember that it’s an illusion. Use your courage to speak your truth and honor your own alignment. That’s the key to overcoming burnout.

What is your concern? It could be: “I can’t leave this job because…”

Once you identify your concern, ask yourself if you absolutely know that is 100% true. The truth is that it isn’t, because it’s an illusion!

What sparked your first journey toward wanting to evolve and transform?

My first journey was sparked by what this quote says exactly: “Change happens when the pain of remaining the same outweighs the pain of change.”

You don’t always have to hit rock bottom to change, but sometimes you just do. I was one of those people.

What do you think was really going on? What was the pain you were experiencing that needed the realignment?

This is a strong word… but I really hated myself. What we resist, persists, and festers and grows. I was burying shame on top of shame.

I thought that I was afraid of rejection and judgment, but I was really just rejecting and judging myself. When you don’t accept yourself, it projects onto other people and reflects in every other way in your life.

It was an illusion that I was making up about myself. When I realized that, I was really able to overcome judgement just like I did when I was overcoming burnout.

What do you think about the lifestyle of ignorance is bliss?

I know that it can be very true because I’ve done it. I’m a dismissive-avoidant, which means that when shit hits the fan– I put a big wall up, withdraw, and turn the other cheek.

So once again, what we resist persists. When we’re ignoring, we’re also resisting. You can ignore it all you want, but it’s still happening, and it’s eventually going to blow-up on you.

You only cause yourself more pain by trying to stay in your bliss bubble.

What is the theme of your life today? What are you currently focused on?

I’ve been completely unhinged and living the nomadic lifestyle. I’ve been traveling the world, experiencing different cultures, and allowing myself to get super uncomfortable.

Now, I have an incredible boyfriend who I love with all my heart. I’ve never felt this way about a man before where I see a future together so clearly. I’m at a point where my focus is settling down and where I’m ready to be rooted with my hunny.

What would you like to wrap up with? Do you have an ask for the audience?

Watch the “should-ing.” Stop should-ing on yourself! 

We all should on ourselves. I should do this… I should do that…

My ask is for those listening to ask themselves where they’re should-ing in their life. Ask yourself how you can shift from that to acceptance instead.

There’s a lot of should-ing that’s happening in the world right now, and we really get to practice acceptance and compassion.

Final Thoughts on Overcoming Burnout, Judgement and Struggle.

I hope that sharing my journey on overcoming burnout, judgement and struggle has supported you in some way! Transformation is a way of life. It is a choice that we get to make in each moment. The art of overcoming happens when we are brave enough to face what hurts us so that we can move through it. Enjoy each moment of your journey and be thankful for the challenges and struggles because that’s what grows you.

It just means that you’re in the works and you’re about to have a huge breakthrough. <3